Dog Training Not Working? Maybe YOU Aren’t The One To Blame

– You may be watching this video because you wanna make sure
everyone in your family is onboard with training your
dog and being good leaders. You also might be watching this video because somebody has sent you it because they feel you need to see it. In this video, I’m gonna
teach you how everyone in your family can learn to
be a good leader regardless of the one who’s doing the
majority of the training. And I think, by the end of this video, I may say a few things
that may surprise you. I’m Kayl McCann and welcome
back to McCann Dogs. (guitar strum) (dog barking) We get asked this question
on a regular basis about how family members can all
be consistent for the dog. And at the end of the day,
it’s really not about you and the family members, what’s
most important is the dog. It’s not uncommon, when you
have a dog with a family, to have them respond or
start to respect some people in the household more than others. Typically, they end up
listening to the person who has the most follow through or
spends the most time training and interacting with the dog. It’s not uncommon for the
dog to gravitate towards one or two people in the house that tend to have more leadership qualities. And what starts to
happen is the dog starts to naturally listen to
those people a bit more, but if there’s other people in the house that aren’t following through as much or treating the dog a bit
more like a litter mate, you’re gonna find that
the dog takes advantage of those people a little bit more easily and they don’t listen quite as well. The most important thing
that a dog needs in training or just management in life is consistency. They really need information
that is black and white, so if they’re allowed to
do something sometimes, and then other times, they’re,
they don’t get in trouble for it, and then other times, they do, it can become very confusing
as to what the rules are. Another thing I hear from people is that they’re really
trying hard to be consistent and provide that black and white picture that I’m talking about, but
their husband or their kids or their neighbors or whoever
isn’t doing the same things. And I think it’s really
important to make sure that you’re training the
dog, but it’s equally as important to make
sure that you’re training the family members as well. Because at the end of the
day, it’s really not about the people in the house,
it’s about the information that the dog is getting, and if you really wanna effect change in their
behavior, everybody has to be on board as to what
is allowed and what is not. So it’s important that you sit down and have a family meeting and establish the rules that your dog is
allowed to do and not allowed to do, and it could be
really easy common things, like the dog’s not allowed to jump up on the counter and steal things. Family members aren’t allowed to feed the dog from the dinner table. Or maybe they’re not allowed to bark at the neighbors who are
walking by the window or they’re not allowed
to grab your housecoat as you go down the hallway. Those are rules that hopefully everybody is on the same page about,
because if the dog starts to do those behaviors and
everybody knows what to do in order to address them, it’s gonna make a little bit more sense to the dog as to what they’re allowed
to do and what they’re not. And remember, when your dog does something that you don’t like, you
need to address that, but then you need to
redirect them to something that they should do,
because we need to make sure that we’re giving the dog as
much information as possible and as clearly as we can. Now, maybe you’re a
family that has children or maybe you are around children a lot. And what we find is
although kids typically really like dogs, they’re
usually a very easy target. They’re cute, they’re little,
they move fast, they squeak. And a lot of dogs think
that they’re a lot of fun and very much like a litter mate, and we often see dogs
behave very differently, more poorly sometimes, around
children than they do adults. So we have a couple recommendations on how you can actually teach the kids to have better leadership
skills over the dogs in very safe and controlled ways. And part of that is
having them be included in the dog’s daily training plan. One of the things that we recommend when we have a dog that’s in a family with adults and children
is have whoever the dog is starting to respect the most begin the initial training on the dog. And what this does is it establishes a little bit more
control, the dog typically will be a little calmer. It has a few skills underneath its belt. And then we’ll have the kids start to do a little bit of the training. When I was a kid and I
had a horseback ride, they didn’t take me, who
was completely inexperienced at the time, and put it on a horse that was inexperienced as well. They taught me how to ride
horses by putting me on a horse that had been ridden many times before. And we find that the same
thing works for the dog. We often have a lot of
adults that come in, and they’re so excited
about having a dog and a kid and they want the kid to
do all of the training. In our experience, this
really doesn’t work well, the dogs don’t start off with
a really solid foundation of training, and then we have to go back and train things later on. So the best thing to do is to have someone a bit more experienced
start off by building skills on the dog and then have the kids jump in and start to work with the dog once some of the skills are already established. This allows the dog to be more successful and it also teaches the dog
to be a bit more respectful of the person because there’s
a stronger understanding of what’s expected in that moment. On the topic of kids, if you feel like you’re having leadership
issues in the home, be very careful that you
don’t have some of the kids or even some adults doing
a lot of roughhousing and playing and getting down on the ground and allowing the dogs to play
bite and be really silly, and then expect them to not
portray those same behaviors with any younger kids
that might not be able to control the dog as well,
it can be really difficult for a dog to understand
that they can play fight and be really rowdy with a
teenage child or an adult, and then not go and do the same thing with a two year old nephew or niece. Remember, if you’re working really hard to get your dog to stop jumping on people or to stop nipping and biting,
to come when they’re called, and then there’s other
people in the family who are interacting with the
dogs that are allowing them to get away with not doing those things, you’re not going to see
progress in your dog. Everybody needs to be
on board and understand how to follow through so that
the dog’s training progression can go very quickly and very smoothly. So let’s talk about a couple things that everybody can do
in order to make sure that the dog is listening to
everybody in the household. Number one, if you have a
young, wild, and crazy dog, that dog needs to be on
a leash any given moment that they are out of their crate. This is gonna allow you to follow through when the dog’s not
listening, if it’s jumping up or if it’s barking or
digging in the backyard, you’re able to use the
leash to follow through. One of the most important things
that you can do with a dog that everybody can do is follow through with the expectation,
and it could be something as simple as asking the dog to sit. If you’ve asked the dog to
sit, the dog looks at you and just walks away, when the leash is on, you can repeat sit and then follow through by making sure it actually happens. And when everybody
starts to follow through with the commands that are given, the dog starts to learn that
everybody’s voice has merit. If you live in a busy household
filled with people and kids, or maybe you’re just a really busy person and you don’t have a lot of time to devote to the leadership of the dog, remember that you can always use your crate. When your dog is in their crate, they’re much less likely
to rehearse bad behaviors. And it’s a place for them
to go and be relaxed. I try to never feel guilty about leaving my young untrained dogs in a crate, because I spend a lot
of time, quality time, outside of their crate
exercising them, training them, making sure that they’re both physically and mentally stimulated,
so by the time they go in their crate, they’re more relaxed, they just wanna have a
nap, and then I can go and get things done that I need to. And by the time I’m ready
to get the dog out again, I can devote my attention solely to them. This is especially important
if you do have kids or other people in the
family that aren’t showing as strong of leadership
skills as they really need to. You know, for example, if
you’re not home from work and your kids get home before you and they let the dog out
and the dog’s running around like crazy and acting obnoxious and it’s not really being
made to do anything, and then you fly home and you
start getting the household in line, your dog’s now had
five minutes, half hour, two hours of being a total hooligan, and then all of a sudden, you
walk in and the rules apply. That can be really difficult,
or what will happen is the dog learns different scenarios. They learn, when mama boss
walks in or dad walks in, that they have to listen,
but as soon as you walk out the door, anything can happen. We don’t want the dog learning that there’s two sets of rules, one when you’re there
and one when you’re not. So if you’re not sure that
the people in the household in that moment can be showing
the dog good leadership skills and information, ask that
your family members keep the dog crated until
you’re home and you’re able to follow through, and make
sure that you’re teaching the family members what
to do with the dogs when they’re making poor choices, how they should handle
when the dog is jumping up or barking or any behavior
that you don’t want, so everybody’s equipped and ready to deal with the dog at any given time. We know that dogs typically
love the person who feeds them. So if you have family
members, again, adult or kid, it doesn’t matter, that needs
to work a little bit more on building a rapport with the dog, one of the best things
to do is have them start to give the dog their
breakfast or their dinner. We will even suggest to have
some people hand feed the dog, so rather than putting
the bowl on the floor, take the bowl of food,
take it from your hand, and actually hand deliver it to your dog. And you can make them do things for it, you could work a sit, you
could work some attention, and then deliver the food in that manner. And what that does is it allows the dog to learn to work for that person and to respect that
person a little bit more. This is a fabulous thing
to do with your kids. Make sure that you’re there
watching them, of course, but you can have them hand
deliver the food a little bit. You can have the dog sit and wait while you put the food down
and then have the child release the dog to the food when they’re ready. These small little control exercises help to put that human in a
more leadership role, but in a super fun,
non-confrontational way. Now, I’ve directed a lot of
this information towards kids, but there could be some
adults in the household that the dog is starting
to treat like a litter mate or just is not listening to as well. So everything I spoke about
in regards to the children, that works for anybody
who’s having more issues with the dog’s listening. Maybe part of your training
plan is that the person who the dog is listening to
the most, the lead trainer, can do a little bit of the work, and then you can do a
little bit of the work after the foundation of the
exercise is established. Or maybe you can pick and
choose who’s gonna work the dog in certain scenarios, if
you’re heading to a place there’s more distraction
or a higher probability of your dog making errors, have the person that’s gonna have the most
success with the dog interact with the dog in that moment. And then in the lesser
distracting environments or some of the easier situations,
you can have the person who has a little bit harder
time actually work the dog in that moment so there’s
a higher probability of the dog being successful. A lot of time, people shy away from some of these leadership suggestions
that we’re talking about, things like putting the
dog on a leash more often. That can be terribly inconvenient. Not letting them up on
the couch or the bed, not wrestling with them,
putting them in a crate. All of those things people shy away from because it takes away from
their interaction with the dog. But what you need to
remember is that those are not forever things. This is just during the
timeframe that it takes to establish more leadership over the dog. Once the dog understand
what’s allowed and what’s not and they’re starting to listen better, they’re making better
choices in the house, you can start to loosen the ropes and you can let them have
some of those luxuries back. We don’t crate our dogs forever, once they understand not to go
to the bathroom in the house, not to chew our things,
not to nip and bite, they have some basic skills, they listen, then we let them have
more time out of the crate and have a little bit more freedom. We might let them get up on the couch if that’s something that
we’re comfortable with. So our dogs earn their freedom
by giving good behavior, you don’t wanna just
let everything out first and then try to reign it back in once you have a whole series of problems. You wanna start off being more controlled and more structured, and as the dog starts to be successful, you
can start to hand out a few more luxuries so the dog’s learning to earn those freedoms or those luxuries by giving you good behavior in return. And if you’re strict enough
and consistent enough, you’re gonna find that you
just whizz through this stage, but if you’re being inconsistent, this can take months to
overturn, sometimes even years. So it is in your best interest to be as consistent as possible
so that you’re not stuck in this whole leadership drill
sergeant stage for very long. Remember, at the end of the
day, the most important thing that you can do for your dog
is get everybody on board, remember, this is not really about you and your family members. This is about providing
the most clear information for your dog, and they’re
gonna love you for it. If you’re looking for some more real life leadership opportunities, make sure you click that card right there. If this is your first time on our channel, make sure you hit that Subscribe button. We post brand new videos every single week to help you have a well-behaved
four-legged family member. On that note, I’m Kayl,
see you in the next video.

19 thoughts on “Dog Training Not Working? Maybe YOU Aren’t The One To Blame

  • This is such an important factor in your training. Not for you, but for your dog! Your dog will understand the rules more quickly, they'll be more confident, and they will be allowed more freedom when they start making good choices! If you're looking for more great leadership examples, be sure to check out this playlist:
    Thanks for watching! ~Ken

  • My dad is the problem for training. He is some what traditional in his views of dog training and doesn't believe in positive reinforcement. If for example he chases the swing ball I will bring him away and place him in his down stay. My dad grabs the hose and sprays him whilst shouting. He also doesn't understand that dogs don't understand delayed consequences so he will shout at the dog 3 hours later expecting him to understand. I'm 16 so I can't exactly tell him no that doesn't work. Any recommendations

  • Would love to see more videos on training a puppy and dog in environment that are not optimal…for example tons of distractions and no support.

    I am asking because i know at least one person may be dealing with this. I feel many times it can be a little idealistic.

    I feel like the crate can be a true secret weapon in that scenario ( like you mentioned). I would personally try to keep my dog crated during most chaotic times or roomate melt downs. Grab moments of quiet for 15 min training sessions and build until the dog can learn to tune out other members or be envirnment neutral. Some roomate situations and family situations are not at all ideal and someone may need to know how do i convey leadership…teach discipline and handle chaos in shorts bits of time while my toxic roomate or family is away. 😂

  • I know I've written this before but OMG my husband and I so appreciate that you are doing these videos! We sit together and watch each new one. We are having great success with our now 21 week old Double Doodle puppy because we are being consistent, but it helps to be reminded again how important this is! Thank you so much for taking the time to do these videos! As I've also said before, we've gone to two local trainers so far for puppy class and our puppy has been the "oh my gosh you have a trained puppy!" in the class. But we have yet to hear the great training tips you provide from these trainers. Instead, we see examples of what not to do! We wish we lived near you so we could come in person to your facility but we don't, so just know we eagerly await every new video!

  • I would say that we, the dog owners screw it up even more than our families. As I mentioned in a video, everything our dogs does is either taught by us consciously, or subconsciously. Most common One big thing is that we greet our dogs as soon as we come home. We don't even take our jackets off. Kind of funny, when my girlfriend comes home, they get all excited and runs towards her, jumps on her etc etc. When I come home, they wag their tail, they are for sure very excited, but they stay at their beds waiting for me to come to them when I'm done.

    Another thing is that alot of people try to teach their dog not to beg for food. But every once in a while they might get a treat if the dogs go to the kitchen. Guess what your dog gonna associate you being in the kitchen with?? 🙂

    Sorry if I repeated anything in your video. I couldn't watch the entire thing (have no headset. And I'm in a public area. So I just wanted to share my view on this) 🙂 Great channel!!

  • Awesome informative video. Our puppy is not here yet but will share this with my husband! He was a litter mate sometimes with our children and now grandchildren🤣 #PapaIsSoSilly

  • Does 1:10 mean Ken has been misbehaving? 😂

    Also, do you have advice for someone in the case of having others in the house who are "committed" to doing things incorrectly?

  • This video is incredibly helpful as I said below. I would love it if you did a video on socializing puppies to people and circumstances so they don’t feel fearful or aggressive. There is confusing advice on this and would love knowing how you do this!

    Also a video on preventing resource guarding would be great! Thank you so much!

  • Thank you so much!! Starting off every one on the right foot is so much easier than “correcting “ later. People need consistency too❣️

  • Thank you so much! I'll definitely try this out. One of our friends gave us a pug (roughly around 10 months old) yesterday, and he's used to drinking milk. We're trying to change his diet, but he refuses to drink water. Please help :O

  • I have one comment "HELP". I have a 4 and 5 year old dogs. I have never had a pottytraining problem ever. I cant get them to stop pottying in the house. I swear I am part owner in Lysol and Swiffer mops. Its really bad. I have used crates. The 5 year old got it the 4 year old no. He will back hiss butt right to the back of the crate and poop. I got tired of cleaning the crate so got rid of that. Now it is a constint pee and poop in the house, I am at my wit ends. Another problem my husband doesnt have patience to wait for them to potty. I dont know what to do… I am just going crazy.
    Please help.

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